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The Importance of Good Nutrition to Aging Seniors

April 17th, 2014 · 10 Comments

Senior Health & Nutrition

When we mention the elderly, we usually are referring to anyone over seventy-years-old, with the baby boomers now rapidly coming up behind them. As we grow older we often have trouble maintaining a fitness regimen.

Our body is aging and we are having trouble making the effort to work out. We just don’t have the energy or the desire anymore, even if we did in the first place. Unfortunately, when that happens we begin to lose our ability to develop muscles or gain strength.

It’s a two-edged sword. We don’t have the energy to work out, and when we don’t work out we lose muscle and grow weaker and our energy declines even more. We are more inclined to have health problems as our bodies start winding down. We have this ailment or that surgery and we feel like we are falling apart. [Read more →]

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Are You a Well-Rounded Senior Citizen?

April 10th, 2014 · 6 Comments

I ran across the word well-rounded several times in the past week and that got me thinking about aging seniors and the baby boomers who are moving into that category. Are we well-rounded seniors? Let’s find out.

My somewhat ancient Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary says that well-rounded means “having a broad educational background” and “Comprehensive (a well-rounded program of activities)”. But, I wonder if nowadays it isn’t a little more than that. [Read more →]

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Are You Getting Enough Sleep?

April 8th, 2014 · 2 Comments

Children require much more sleep than adults.

Children require much more sleep than adults.

As we grow older we quite often find we are not sleeping as much as we did when we were younger. One reason for the shorter nights is that as we age we don’t require as much sleep. But sometimes we find that stress can be the cause of why we toss and turn all night and wake up groggy in the morning.

One of the most important steps we can take for our body and our mind is to make sure we get enough rest no matter how old, or young, we are. Sleep is necessary for our overall wellbeing. It helps us wake up in the morning feeling refreshed, mentally and physically, and ready to meet the day.

If you are like many aging seniors, or even if you are much younger with active children, a hectic work schedule, or stressors such as a higher mortgage than you can manage, a car that seems to have run out of miles, or a body that suddenly starts to act up and you are visiting your physician much more often than you would like, you need sleep to help restore your body, mind, and soul.
Although you may have noticed the changing sleep pattern, you still need to do whatever you can to get enough rest. Here are a few ideas that could help you get the rest you need. [Read more →]

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Caregivers: A Gratitude Journal Can Change Your Life

March 27th, 2014 · 8 Comments


Long before I became a caregiver to my elderly father in 2006, I started reading about and following women who kept journals of various kinds. Sarah Ban Breathnach of Simple Abundance fame was one of the early ones as was Julia Cameron with her ground-breaking The Artist’s Way. These two women helped tremendously as I worked through some frustrating years using their writing tools.

As I worked through the Simple Abundance program, at least ten years ago, I started writing a daily gratitude list of 10 items, usually in the evening. I’ve been fairly faithful with that habit although I’ve drifted away at times, and at other times I’ve written just five a day – guess I was struggling with spotting the good things going on around me at that time. [Read more →]

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Retirement Nest Eggs – How Much Do I Need to Retire Comfortably?

March 27th, 2014 · No Comments

Although this is a sponsored post, the article contains valuable information for those who are concerned about their ability to retire with the amount of money they need to take care of them in their advanced years. Hopefully, this information will help you make wise decisions as you head into your senior years.

How much money should you put away in order to retire on schedule and be able to live comfortably? Imagine that: living comfortably and never having to go to work again. Hmm. Seems nice. Seems like a nice dream. But what does it actually take to make that dream a reality? How can you ever even expect to be able to chuck all that dough into savings? Well, of course, the answer is diehard discipline, coupled with some good knowledge. Obviously, the optimal algorithm for your retirement’s case is affected by several dependent variables. These include, but are not limited to: [Read more →]

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The Pros and Cons of Sleeping in a Recliner

March 24th, 2014 · 8 Comments


Many people of all ages seem to have trouble sleeping at night, especially those of us who are getting older. Some people try to stay in bed until they fall asleep, while tossing and turning for hours. Others give up on the tossing and turning out of frustration, and get out of bed only to pace the floor trying to get a level of tiredness that can lull them back to sleep. Still others resort to sitting or lying in their recliner and watching television until they nod off.

However people choose to handle their inability to fall asleep, what they don’t realize is that the results can often cause serious side-affects if they spend too much time in a recliner. The elderly are especially prone to moving around less as they get older. They don’t require the amount of sleep they used to when they were young and active. The combination of moving around less and sleeping more often in an unhealthy position can lead to a number of health issues. [Read more →]

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Five Reasons Why Seniors May Have Problems Sleeping

March 21st, 2014 · 8 Comments


In a previous article we asked if our senior readers were having trouble sleeping all night. We examined why the elder population requires less sleep than those who are younger. You’ll find a link to that article below this post. In this article, we are going to go a little bit further into the discussion as we cover five reasons why seniors may have problems sleeping.

Seniors sleep less deeply

One of the first things we learned during our stint as a caregiver was that seniors sleep less deeply for a shorter period of time. The good news is that it doesn’t mean they don’t get enough sleep. Because they require less sleep, the shorter time they do sleep doesn’t affect them like it would someone younger. [Read more →]

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Having Trouble Sleeping?

March 20th, 2014 · 6 Comments


Aging seniors are notorious for needing less sleep than when they were younger. Babies sleep the most of any human being as do young children and teens. As we age, however, we seem to require less sleep. Baring serious health issues, by the time we are in our sixties and beyond we just don’t need that much sleep.

Unfortunately, many seniors don’t realize its okay not to sleep as long. When they start to worry about their lack of sleep, they actually begin to add to their problem. There may be other reasons why seniors aren’t sleeping as well, such as: [Read more →]

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Should Children Attend a Funeral?

March 17th, 2014 · 10 Comments


My paternal grandparents lived five miles away from us and we saw them often. My grandmother died unexpectedly of a heart attack shortly after she turned sixty-nine; I was nineteen. My brother was going into the Air Force and I was in college; my sister was the only one at home and in high school when Grandma died.

My grandmother’s wake the night before and funeral the next day were intense due to the suddenness of her death. When we left the funeral home after her funeral, Mom was standing nearby as my brother, a cousin, and I walked down the half dozen steps to the sidewalk. She said later that she didn’t know who was holding whom up. [Read more →]

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How Clean is Your Hospital? Check Out These Facts and Stats

March 14th, 2014 · No Comments

Shocking Facts and Statistics About Hospitals - an Infographic

Resource: http://www.curos.com/shocking-facts-statistics-cleanliness-hospitals/

Note: A frequent reader ran across this infographic and thought others might be interested as well. Feel free to leave a comment regarding the information contained on this post. We would like to hear what you think.

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Should Young Children Visit Dying Grandparents?

March 12th, 2014 · 6 Comments

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This article is the first of a two part series regarding children and the issues of death and dying, and attending funerals. Our question today is, at what age do you think it would be okay for children to visit their dying grandparent or great-grandparent in a hospital or nursing home; or even if they were still in their own home. Or, maybe you don’t believe they should visit at all.

Before nursing homes became more available in the late fifties and early sixties most family members either died at home or in a hospital. I remember my mother taking care of my grandfather when he could no longer live at home. When Mom and my grandmother were no longer able to care for him he was admitted to a hospital closer to his home; the hospital where he died. [Read more →]

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Drinking Water is Essential for Aging Seniors

March 11th, 2014 · 8 Comments


As most of us know, drinking water is essential to our health. What we may not know is how great the risk is to aging seniors if they fail to stay hydrated. I spent some time around the Internet this morning to see what I could find out about aging seniors and the need for hydration.

There is quite a bit of information and I’d like to share some of it with you so that you can make wise decisions about your health or your senior loved one. Note that this is an article of lists. There was so much information that I thought this would be an easier way to take it all in.

Three-fourth of our body is made up of water and we need to keep water flowing through our system in order to stay healthy and alert. I’m going to share several lists with you beginning with what can happen if we don’t drink enough water. [Read more →]

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Checklists: A Caregivers Friend

March 5th, 2014 · 10 Comments

Checklists are basically what the word entails, a list of items or to-do instructions that you can check off as the tasks are completed. As a caregiver who now needs to traverse the winding road of getting someone’s affairs in order, I’ve found checklists are my friend.

Yesterday I spent a considerable number of hours on the phone with Dad’s retirement site and the Social Security site among others. Thank you SSI for the option to call us back when a line is available. Saved me at least the forty-five minute wait that was predicted and I was able to continue working during that time.

After a search based on “what to do when an aging parent dies” I was given quite a number of links in the results list. Some of them were organizations and others were obviously other websites and blogs. I checked out about a half dozen and found that AARP was the most comprehensive. [Read more →]

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No Regret

March 3rd, 2014 · 8 Comments

I’ve lived with regret for many years. The decisions I’ve made, the words I’ve spoken, the missed opportunities over the years that I wish could come around again. One thing I’ve not felt at all is regret about how I took care of Dad in his final years.

The day I moved in with him in September 2006, he and I got into a huge argument just a couple of hours after the movers started unloading the van. It was a dumb argument and I thought, “Is this the way it’s going to be?” We had always had a rough relationship and most people were shocked when I took over his care from my sister. She wanted to move on after years of caring for my mother until her death, and then dad for an additional two years. [Read more →]

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Aging and Humor

March 2nd, 2014 · No Comments

I recently ran across a poem that’s a take-off of the popular Cat in a Hat by Dr. Seuss. The title is The Cat In a Hat on Aging.  As we get older, sometimes we need humor to see us through the increasingly tough times. For example, our knees don’t bend as they used to, our mind doesn’t want to cooperate when we try to think of a word or remember an experience from the past, and our get up and go left quite some time ago. [Read more →]

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